A guest post by Heidi Dennis
“We fell out of love”. You’ve heard that before, haven’t you? I know I have. I realize that this is a strange post in light of Valentines Day, but what happens when you just don’t feel “in love” anymore? What are you supposed to do? Well the truth is, there is a really good reason for that and it has to do with hormones- more specifically Oxytocin. Oxytocin is known as the “cuddle hormone” because it is released when you are physically close or “snuggling” with another person. I don’t know about you, but I did A LOT more “cuddling” with my husband when we were dating (I mean, do you remember all of the making out??? Mercy, it’s a wonder we could BREATHE). I’m guessing that most of you can relate to me in that you don’t seem to do that when you get married. For starters, when would you have the time? Sex, sadly, turns into a check list item when you bring kids, chores, work, etc, etc, etc into the equation. You really have to WORK at staying close- physically and emotionally. So much for Oxytocin building. And this is ALL of us, by the way. Don’t let Hollywood tell you differently.