A guest post by Heidi Dennis

“We fell out of love”.  You’ve heard that before, haven’t you?  I know I have.  I realize that this is a strange post in light of Valentines Day, but what happens when you just don’t feel “in love” anymore?  What are you supposed to do?  Well the truth is, there is a really good reason for that and it has to do with hormones- more specifically Oxytocin.  Oxytocin is known as the “cuddle hormone” because it is released when you are physically close or “snuggling” with another person.  I don’t know about you, but I did A LOT more “cuddling” with my husband when we were dating (I mean, do you remember all of the making out??? Mercy, it’s a wonder we could BREATHE).  I’m guessing that most of you can relate to me in that you don’t seem to do that when you get married.  For starters, when would you have the time?  Sex, sadly, turns into a check list item when you bring kids, chores, work, etc, etc, etc into the equation.  You really have to WORK at staying close- physically and emotionally.  So much for Oxytocin building.  And this is ALL of us, by the way.  Don’t let Hollywood tell you differently.

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A guest post by Reclaimed Beauty (Heidi Dennis) 

 

You’ve heard that old saying, “Opposites Attract?”  Well I am here to tell you, in my experience, this couldn’t be more true.  My husband and I have a lot of common interests together.  We love to travel and scuba dive.  He loves to cook and I love to eat.  Guys, he even loves to go SHOPPING with me.  Jackpot.  I tried to take up cycling with him but that just ended up in him cycling quickly past me up a hill and calling back “encouraging” words to me while I muttered words under my breath at him that I don’t care to repeat.  A lot of these similarities came through time, trial, and error.  I still remember those tough conversations during the first year of our marriage when we looked at each other and asked, “Do we have ANYTHING in common?” (this may or may not have followed one of our failed cycling outings where I tearfully told him that I HATED cycling with a capital H.  My husband would tell you that I was never that direct about it and just stopped going).

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A guest post by Reclaimed Beauty (Heidi Dennis) 

Yes, you read that right.  I called anxiety a gift.  No, I am not crazy.  No, I have not been drinking too much egg nog.  I think anxiety (much like anger) has gotten a bad rap in comparison to it’s other emotional peers.  Allow me to explain…when we are experiencing anxiety, it’s our body’s way of telling us that we have a need- much like our stomach growling is our body’s way of telling us it’s time to chow down.  Too many times we ignore anxiety by trying to push it away.  Let me ask you something, what would happen if your tried to “push away” the feeling of hunger when your stomach growled?  Would it work?  Absolutely not!  In fact, your stomach would actually start to growl LOUDER.  No matter how many times you push it away, until you meet that need, your stomach will continue to sound like a “hangry” bear who is about two seconds away from throating punching someone over a bag of Cheetos.

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Guest Post by Reclaimed Beauty (Heidi Dennis) 

Well, the holiday season is upon us.  It’s the time where families gather together and waistlines expand.  I love this time of year (it doesn’t hurt that I was born on Thanksgiving Day- my nickname was the “turkeybaby”).  It’s an amazing time for so many.  In scrolling through Facebook or Instagram, you see countless smiling family pictures.  You also see posts with the perfect spread of turkey, mashed potatoes smothered in gravy, and green bean casserole (oh man, I’d better wipe this drool off of my keyboard, stat).  Everything and everyone looks so…perfect.  But you know just as well as I do that there is no way everything is as perfect as it seems.  I know this to be true because retail isn’t the only business booming during the holidays.  My therapy office sees a huge increase in clients just trying to survive the season.  If you have ever struggled over the holidays, this post is for you.

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We love bringing you “Susan Shares” weekly here on our Tangible Truth website.  Susan always has a lot of wisdom nuggets for us! Our desire for the next year is to bring you more of her videos as well as periodical blog posts from Susan and Kelly Stamps.  We also want to introduce you to a friend and therapist, Heidi Dennis, who will be writing for us as well.  She brings a lot of knowledge, experience and encouragement that we think you will love.

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